24 apr 2012

i know two people going through divorce right now. not two people married to each other. no. it's two people married to two other people.

one is a 20something girl who's been married less than a year. the other's a 40something guy who's been married many years. the two don't know each other. i don't know the husband of the first or the wife of the latter.

both the 20something and the 40something say the same thing, though, when you ask them why they're choosing this road. they say it's because the road they had chosen was the wrong one. they both realised the person to whom they were married was such a poor match that they had to get out of the sitch.

it's a shame they couldn't have had a clearer view of things sooner in the process, and not gone down this road in the first place, but... it is what it is. i mean, we're all flawed, right? we've all got our blind spots. we all do things that we think the world expects of us or that seem right at the time. we all make mistakes, muddle through, make the best of things.

did you ever do something different - change your hair, your job, your lifemate, your wallpaper, whatever - and the people around you all say, "it's about time. that other _______ was terrible for you!" do you think they should have told you sooner? i don't know how that would work, really. sometimes, you can't tell people stuff. they just have to find out for themselves.